lundi 27 octobre 2008

Compliment

J'ai de la difficulté à accepter les compliments. Truly. Ça me rend mal à l'aise, je doute de la sincérité, du bien fondé, de la crédibilité. Parce que je suis sceptique du désintéressement des gens. Parce que je suis sceptique de l'honnêteté. Parce que je relativise. Parce que je suis critique.

En entrevue, j'ai de la difficulté à nommer mes qualités. Pas que je sois particulièrement humble, je pense au contraire avoir une confiance en moi plus développée que la moyenne. Mais quand quelqu'un essaie de dire du bien, je considère le tout comme de la crotte de boeuf. C'est bizarre.

Tout cela se reflète aussi un peu dans la façon que j'ai de me définir. J'ai tendance à me décrire comme le négatif de ce que je ne suis pas. Je ne suis pas un cave. Je ne suis pas mauvais. Je ne suis pas laid. Je ne suis pas malhonnête. Enfin, vous voyez le topo. J'ai l'impression que je ne suis pas le seul à être comme ça. C'est bizarre. Alors que la majorité des gens se démènent pour obtenir l'approbation des autres, être reconnus positivement, lorsqu'ils y arrivent, ils nient. Et le font en toute bonne foi. Freaking weird. On devrait être capable de sharer de l'amour de façon collective et bien grasse, pourquoi en sommes nous inaptes? Bouh l'humain bouh.

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J., Pédagogue-à-gogo a dit…

Puisque je suis cynique et sceptique (ouais, ce sont 2 de mes qualités ;)), je dirai ceci : quand on reçoit un compliment, la plupart du temps on est d'accord avec, mais on sait que ça le fait plus ou moins d'approuver. Alors on prend notre air de "je vois pas de quoi tu parles, voyons" et on joue la game.

Et, en silence, on se touche de plaisir.

J'aime bien dire "on" en ne parlant que de moi...

Fille Imparfaite a dit…

Monsieur fait de la litote quand il est temps de se décrire lui-même.
Tut tut tut.

L'Ours qui a vu l'Homme a dit…

Pour les entrevues, tu sais que les questions s'en viennent, alors penses-y fort avant, et déballe des réponses pendant.

KattyKane a dit…

Des fois, faut juste apprendre à dire merci... mais si t'es même pas capable de te nommer des qualités, de façon positive. Comment pourrais-tu accepter que les autres le fassent???

C'est pas tout d'avoir confiance en toi. Si tu es pas capable d'énumérer de tes qualités, c'est qu'à quelque part tu ne sais pas trop ce que tu vaux. Cette question là reviens toujours aux entrevues c'est clair. Prépares-toi à y faire face et penses-y d'avance.

En même temps, ça va peut-être t'aider à prendre et à te faire des compliments.

Le Tapageur Silencieux a dit…

@j pédagogue-à-gogo: C'est certain que recevoir un compliment, ça fait plaisir et donne parfois le goût de se toucher, seul, une fois la pénombre venue. Mais quand même, j'ai toujours de la difficulté à les prendre au sérieux ou bien ça me rend mal à l'aise.

@fille imparfaite: En effet, j'essaie de minimiser, j'en cache! Les seuls genses qui font plus de figures de style qu'ici, ce sont les patineurs de fantaisie. Oui oui.

@l'ours: J'essaie toujours de me préparer un truc, mais une fois rendu, je trouve que je ne sonne pas sincère parce que je ne suis pas à l'aise avec ça.

@kattykane: C'est certain qu'il faut dire merci quand ça passe, c'est tellement trop rare à mon sens les gens qui s'échangent des commentaires positifs. C'est sur que si tu n'es pas capable de voir le positif et de l'énumérer, tu ne seras pas capable de dealer avec le fait que les autres le fassent. C'est un peu comme l'amour. Si tu ne t'aimes pas toi-même, tu seras difficilement capable d'être aimé ou même d'aimer. Mon opinion.

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